Finding Healing Through The Six Attachment Wounds
Description:
In this episode, Troy shares his journey through a closed adoption, growing up LDS in a home marked by domestic violence, and the complex feelings that came with wanting to search for his birth parents while fearing it would hurt his adoptive family. His story takes us through his work in drug rehabilitation where he first recognized his own trauma, and the therapy that helped him accept his identity as a gay man in a conservative faith community.
Adoption and Identity
Troy Love was adopted at five days old into what seemed like a loving home. But behind closed doors, violence shaped his childhood in ways he wouldn't understand until decades later. As a therapist and author today, Troy helps adoptees, birth parents, and adoptive families navigate what he calls the six attachment wounds: loss, neglect, abandonment, betrayal, rejection, and abuse.
Breaking the Cycle
Troy's reunion with his birth mother at age 37 reveals the beauty and complexity of loving multiple families. When his adoptive father, confined to a wheelchair and struggling with shame about his past violence, felt threatened by Troy's new relationships, Troy faced a choice. Instead of confronting his father with anger, he chose love and broke the cycle of pain that had defined their family.
Healing and Guidance
Now as a therapist and author of three books including The Finding Peace Workbook and Year of Self Love, Troy guides others through their own healing. He explains how wounds don't define us, how adoptive parents can support children carrying invisible trauma, and why understanding these six wounds changes everything about the adoption journey.
This episode offers hope for anyone touched by adoption, showing that healing is possible when we name our wounds, do the work, and choose love over blame. Discover faith-based adoption support and resources at eternalfamilyadoptions.org.Follow or Subscribe to Eternal Family Adoptions on your favorite platform: Website: EternalFamilyAdoptions.org | YouTube: @EternalFamilyAdoptions | Twitter/X: @ef_Adoptions | Instagram: Eternal_Family_Adoptions | Facebook : Eternal Family Adoptions | LinkedIn: Eternal-Family-Adoptions Follow Nathan Gwilliam: LinkedIn: @nathangwilliam Follow Donna Pope: LinkedIn: @donna-pope-41652ba Follow Troy Love:
